People often ask what kind of standard information I provide to a prospective client. The fact is that every person's case is unique and crucial to them. There is no "routine" or standard presentation. Ending a marriage is a very personal experience, and it can be a tough journey. A client must be comfortable with their attorney - because the attorney is the client's companion on the journey. There has to be synergy. One thing I do tell clients is that there is light at the end of the tunnel. We'll get through this successfully.

I also tell my clients that it is not my place to make decisions for them. I will, however, provide my clients with options, and offer them insight and judgment based upon their particular circumstances, and hopefully, assist them to make informed and good decisions.

That said, if a client makes a decision that I feel is not in their best interest, I will not simply rubber stamp the decision. Instead, I believe it is important to provide the client with constructive feedback, and hope they will reflect carefully before deciding.

Divorce involves a myriad of emotions. Counsel must have the skills, temperament and strategy to manage what is a challenging and difficult time for any person. There is no question that quality counsel can make a huge difference. A lot of attorneys seek to impress their clients by pounding their chests. That makes for a lot of distraction. In my opinion, effective advocacy works best. I tell my clients that you cannot assume the other side is going to be reasonable. While we may hope that will be the case, we need to be prepared. Thus, if I have to litigate, I'll litigate. But, I do believe that it is preferable for clients to be in a position to make informed decisions for themselves - rather than having a judge control their destiny. Good counsel will help keep everyone's eyes on the ball. In that respect, meaningful dialogue is vitally important.

Many lawyers see the practice of law as simply a job. On the other hand, I believe that, as a matrimonial attorney, I have the opportunity to really make a difference by helping my clients through a fragile and difficult time of life. I believe our practice is truly a noble profession. I take a lot of pride in being a matrimonial lawyer. In fact, people often see me struggling with the difficult emotions involved in family law, and they will ask me, how can you do what you do? The answer for me has always been easy. I know I make a difference in people's lives. I help them.